Tuesday, December 21, 2010

The Bigger Person

Thanx to Ms.Counselor for this article :D

How to Stop Holding a Grudge

By an eHow Contributor

Everyone gets hurt or disappointed at some point. Some people are able to shake things off and move on. Others hold on to resentment for years. If you are holding a grudge, follow these steps to forgive and let go.


1. Decide to move on. You expend more energy holding a grudge than you do letting one go. Make the choice to clear up the mental space occupied by this resentment. Once you choose to move on, the grudge will gradually dissipate.

2. Honor your feelings. Resentment builds when emotions go unacknowledged. Take the time to get clear about what you're feeling and why. Take action accordingly. If you have something that needs to be said, say it. If you have already voiced your grievance, then resolve any other feelings yourself.

3. Accept what is. Stop waiting for signs of remorse. Chances are the other person has already put the issue behind them. You may never get an apology, but that doesn't mean you should continue to indulge resentment. Be the bigger person and put the incident behind you.

4. Forgive. Forgiving someone doesn't exempting them from their actions. It doesn't change the facts. If you have been legitimately wronged, then forgiving doesn't mean you have to forget. It does mean that you acknowledge that the person is human and that we all make mistakes.

5. Shift your focus. Look at the good things about the person. Find the positive in the situation. Maybe you learned a lesson and discovered something new about yourself. Changing your viewpoint will help you release resentment.

6. Don't feed the monster. Once you've voiced your resentment and committed to moving on, don't continually talk about the offense. If you find yourself thinking about it, mentally change the subject. If someone brings it up, explain that it's in the past and you don't want to dwell on it.

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Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Hate Is A Strong Word Because...

Hate cages all the good things about you. ~Terri Guillemets

I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear. ~Martin Luther King, Jr.

We hate some persons because we do not know them; and will not know them because we hate them. ~Charles Caleb Colton

You lose a lot of time, hating people. ~Marian Anderson

Hatred is the coward's revenge for being intimidated. ~George Bernard Shaw

Bak tajuk lagu Aisyah, Kemaafan Dendam Yang Terindah.....