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How to Stop Holding a Grudge

By an eHow Contributor

Everyone gets hurt or disappointed at some point. Some people are able to shake things off and move on. Others hold on to resentment for years. If you are holding a grudge, follow these steps to forgive and let go.


Instructions

1. Decide to move on. You expend more energy holding a grudge than you do letting one go. Make the choice to clear up the mental space occupied by this resentment. Once you choose to move on, the grudge will gradually dissipate.

2. Honor your feelings. Resentment builds when emotions go unacknowledged. Take the time to get clear about what you're feeling and why. Take action accordingly. If you have something that needs to be said, say it. If you have already voiced your grievance, then resolve any other feelings yourself.

3. Accept what is. Stop waiting for signs of remorse. Chances are the other person has already put the issue behind them. You may never get an apology, but that doesn't mean you should continue to indulge resentment. Be the bigger person and put the incident behind you.

4. Forgive. Forgiving someone doesn't exempting them from their actions. It doesn't change the facts. If you have been legitimately wronged, then forgiving doesn't mean you have to forget. It does mean that you acknowledge that the person is human and that we all make mistakes.

5. Shift your focus. Look at the good things about the person. Find the positive in the situation. Maybe you learned a lesson and discovered something new about yourself. Changing your viewpoint will help you release resentment.

6. Don't feed the monster. Once you've voiced your resentment and committed to moving on, don't continually talk about the offense. If you find yourself thinking about it, mentally change the subject. If someone brings it up, explain that it's in the past and you don't want to dwell on it.

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Hate Is A Strong Word Because...

Hate cages all the good things about you. ~Terri Guillemets

I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear. ~Martin Luther King, Jr.

We hate some persons because we do not know them; and will not know them because we hate them. ~Charles Caleb Colton

You lose a lot of time, hating people. ~Marian Anderson

Hatred is the coward's revenge for being intimidated. ~George Bernard Shaw

Bak tajuk lagu Aisyah, Kemaafan Dendam Yang Terindah.....

#kcb Part 2 - For Ayu Kelopak

Marilah kita menghayati lirik lagu ini....huhu

Seperti Aku Ini
Semakin Pupus...

Hoh, Sudahlah!

If you're really sincere with your apology, then what was up with that "quote" eh?

For the record, I didn't mean to start a war. I just need a moment to cool off.

I perfectly understand that everybody is entitled to their own opinion. But please, next time try to LOOK AT THE BIGGER PICTURE. Why do you fret on the tiny details? Everybody was so charged up over that issue and yet all you saw was my flaws?

Seriously, your point is?

Perkara kecil tetap perkara kecil. Niat yang baik tetap disalah ertikan. Tak apalah, lepas ini kena pilih kawan kalau nak tolong dalam apa jua keadaan.

To The Island Of Gods

I've read somewhere that Bali is also called The Island of Gods. I was there earlier this month. I'm so going to visit Bali again.

Scrap the plan to write a travelogue. Too lazy. :D

A Memory of Mount Merapi

Sunrise at Ketep Pass, Jogjakarta - April 2010

I've been at the foot of the mountain twice, last year and this year. And I liked it there. Subhanallah, it was so serene especially during sunrise. Thus, I couldn't believe that right now, the once majestic and calm mountain has turned angry.

I pray for the people over there.

Claustrophobia

Old story. But I suddenly got the urge to blog about it.

Last year, when I was admitted at Serd@ng Hospital, I had to undergo a MRI scan. So, as you all know, once the MRI scan begins, you're not allowed to move since this can affect the quality of the image. As the nurses strapped down my body (including my head) I started to feel nervous. Then, the MRI technician gave a panic button and told me this procedure will took around 45 minutes. I started to shiver. Slowly, the MRI bed went inside the tunnel. I didn't know why but suddenly I feel nauseated and I couldn't breath. I started screaming and totally forgot about the panic button.

The MRI bed came out from that small torturous tunnel and the nurses came rushing to me. They comforted me and rubbed my back and I almost puke. I think I spoke nonsense. After a few minutes, I calmed down. I apologized to the nurses and the technician.

“It's okay, you didn't tell me that you're claustrophobic” the technician said.

I was so shocked. I myself didn't even know that I'm claustrophobic. How could that be?

I noticed that I cannot be in a small, confined place after that incident. Sometimes I feel uncomfortable being in a fitting room. This never happened before. I really don't know why.

Anyway, the hospital rescheduled my MRI scan and I was given an injection that made me sleep during the second scan.

Belon

I feel fat and bloated today.

*sigh*

Some People Are Just Plain Weird

Aneh-aneh saja perangai manusia zaman sekarang.

Cara berfikir yang berbeza-beza. Ada yang sangat cetek pemikirannya.

Perkara utama terlepas pandang, tetapi perkara remeh yang dijadikan isu.

Tidak hairanlah, ada manusia yang penuh dengan aura negatif dan menjadi sukar difahami.

Tsk tsk kasihan...It's no surprise that you are your own worst enemy ;)

Okay, back to my Rock Band Unplugged.

Making A Quick Dash

...for blogging.

I'm well. I still hate Kim Kardashian.

I'm off to beraya-raya session with my officemates.

I hope you have a great raya.

Take care.

Not Just Yet

Has it come to the time for me to realize that I'm no longer cool? Damn you, Kim K@rd@shian! You're stealing my traffic with your frequent twitter updates! :D

Fear not, my devoted fans (yeahh all two and a half of you)! This blog will not cease to exist just yet. I will try my best to indulge you with my happenings and whereabouts once in a while.

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As Ramadhan is just around the corner, I have certain dreams and goals to fulfill. I hope I can achieve if not all, some of it. Insyaallah.

Have a blessed Ramadhan! Eat right!

Perasaanku Tentang Perasaanku Kepadamu..

Gosh, I have 12 drafts in my blogger. 12 drafts! As of now, I am a qualified procrastinator..*clap clap*

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I hope this thing that I'm having, is just a phase, easily forgotten as time goes on.

Tired.

C'est La Vie!

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"Eh, eh mengada-ngadalah awak ni, sikit-sikit tak tahan panas. Puteri Lilin betul!"

Yang mereka tak tahu: Penyakit saya sangat sensitif dengan haba panas.

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"Belum kahwin lagi kaki awak dah bengkak macam perempuan mengandung."

Yang mereka tak tahu: Saya sering mengalami swollen feet/edema atau bengkak kaki kerana kesan sampingan dari ubat yang saya ambil.

Such is life...

Kasih Tak Sampai-Sampai

The last 2 months had been quite busy for me. I couldn't find a time to sit down and ponder upon my life and then blog about it. Even when I had the time, I'd rather do something else other than blogging.

So I finally got a much needed rest since yesterday. All previous weekends saw me going somewhere and doing something. One of my friend pointed out that it's amazing that I had this much energy with my unpredictable health status. Speaking of health, my neurologist is still unsure about defining my current status. She said that I'm not "into remission" yet, since I failed a few test. It is only under-controlled for now. The next test is in June. Let's just pray for the best. I'm too tired to worry about it. Whatever will be, will be...

Ok well..let's move along.

I realized that not everything comes along just when I want it. And I think I dream too much. I hope too much, too. And so far it gives me nothing. I've been told that I probably hope for the wrong things but trust me, all the things that I wish for so far is nothing like as rich as the Sultan of Brunei or Brad Pitt lookalike. I wish for the simpler things, in fact sometimes too nondescript.

When I heard the news the other day, it made me sad again. Although I believe in fate and Allah's mysterious ways, I couldn't help but feel devastated. Maybe something that I've been hoping to happen is not good for me, I don't know. Maybe I'm not good enough to hope for that something to happen. Maybe I'm not good enough for anything at all, maybe, maybe....

Reality hits me hard. I don't want to hope for anything no more because in the end it will only makes me sad.

The Emperor's New Clothes

I'm beginning to loathe the growing hypocrisy at that place. The King's head is getting bigger because he thinks things are going so well under his rule. However, certain individuals who are from the lower level got discriminated by The King and their minor mistakes were put under the microscope. Even when those individuals had done a lot of great things to that place, The King totally forgot about it. On the other hand, people who knows how to talk and kiss ass received an enormous respect from The King. Strangely, The King also has this unfathomable belief that people from the upper level are always right.

I wonder what goes on inside the head of that pompous King who thinks he knew better just because he's the leader. Yeah fine, some people made mistakes but that didn't mean that you have the right to make fun of those people and their qualifications. At least they have something to be proud of unlike The King who doesn't have a high qualification and not even a vast experience. Shamefully,The King had been spoon fed by The Empress Dowager to be where he is now.

Since I'm all against tyranny, I've been refraining myself far too many times from lashing out to that King. I'm not sure how long I can take his shit so I've started looking out for a better option. But I'm praying hard that someday The King will get a horrible constipation learn his lesson from belittling other people. I mean come on, if you really believe in yourself, you don't have to bring other people down, right?

Three Oh

I'm addicted to Photofunia

According to Mak, I was supposed to be born on December 28, 1979. However, Allah has greater plans for me, Mak gave birth to me on January 5th, 1980.

So today, I'm just glad that I am celebrating my 30th instead of 31st birthday.

Alhamdulillah, I am leading a relatively normal live even though I still depend on high-level of medications.

Plus, I am blessed with a loving family and great friends.

I am just so glad.